Part 3 of 4: Sense of Sound
Well, we are a third of the way through our series on tips for dating - Your 4 Senses.
And this sense – the sense of sound is one of the most important and the most neglected of all of the sense when it comes to dating – seriously it’s true.
One of the BIGGEST complaints I use to hear from my clients after their first date was….”It was great, until they started…..!”
So, let’s explore how to avoid the pitfalls on the Sense of Sound and give us an even greater chance of leaving our date with a good impression and wanting to see us again (and not busting to exit!).
Sense of Sound Killer #1.
Please don’t drink alcohol before or during your date – many a great date has been ruined by one person drinking too much (usually due to nerves) and turned into a blabbering or even worse blubbering mess. (We will cover this in detail in the future – with real life scenarios). If you do this, the likely chances of you seeing this date again? – Are virtually - zip, zero…nada!
Sense of Sound Killer #2.
Unless you are really clever at telling jokes and you really should be on the stage, don’t do it. There is nothing worse than telling a joke and getting a forced laugh from the person having to listen to it. You don’t want to become embarrassed because the joke fell flat.
Sense of Sound Killer #3.
Please don’t slurp your drink or speak with a mouth full of food. Tacky, tacky, tacky! You will be really embarrassed if you accidentally spit some of your food at your date because you have become excited about a topic you are discussing.
Sense of Sound Killer #4.
Conversations. I would suggest that you stick to the old saying, “The only time you can talk about sex, politics, religion and sport is to a taxi driver”. Remember, at this stage you don’t really know your date, and you don’t want to offend them or get into a heated discussion—or worse, bore them to the back teeth—because you have a strong opinion or passion for any one of these topics.
Sense of Sound Killer #5.
You may be really excited to tell your date all about you, but the art of listening and allowing someone to finish what they are telling you without interruption is a great quality to develop. After all, this is an integral part of any relationship. So if you feel yourself bursting to interrupt, bite your tongue (gently, of course).
Sense of Sound Killer #6.
Please, please don’t talk about previous relationships at this stage of getting to know each other. It can come across in all sorts of ways that you may not intend it to—bitter, emotionally unstable, needy, and the list goes on…!
Keep it light. Save all that stuff for way, way, way down the track – better still leave it where it belongs – in the past. You are in the present now and looking to the future – a fresh start.
Let this potential new person in your life see the possibilities in you – and not the fears, disappointments and unfulfilled expectations you hold of your past.
Your Thoughts?
Next time in tips for dating, we will explore The Sense of Touch, yes, I know you’ve all been waiting for that one!
Until then, stay safe and make good choices!
Smiles to you as always,
Yvonne
Yvonne Rice is a former Dating Agency Director, International Speaker and expert in the research of all aspects of the Single Lifestyle. She is a huge supporter of online dating and has researched 5,500+ Online Singles and over 6,000 Online Dating Sites globally. As a result of this research, she is also the Author of two books dedicated to being single and dating online.
Yvonne is also a consultant to various Law Enforcement and Government Agencies about Online Safety and Internet Scams that are directed at the Singles Dating, Chat Room and Social Networking Industries. She is also the CEO of the Global Non-For-Profit Organization - The Dating Association,
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