Part 2 of 4: Sense of Sight
Well, in the last tips for dating article we took at really good look at the 1st of your Senses – The Sense of Smell and just how important that can be to your date. If this is your first time here - you will find this on the right hand side under Categories - enjoy!
Today we are going to explore the Sense of Sight and as a comment suggested from one of my readers David puts so well,……
“Great Blog, very helpful. I’m looking forward to reading what you write about sight as it plays such an important part in a relationship - not just during the courtship but well into the partnership. Keep up the good work!”
Thank you David! – and you are right, it is important to keep up how you look after yourself well into your relationship and we will cover this in another series of tips for dating. But for now, we want to get you to that place of being in a relationship.
Now, please remember that in these tips for dating we are going back to the basics…building that foundation again.
You have nothing to loose by doing a refresher, because sometimes we forget – and it’s the little things that give you the chance of a second date – or make the person you are meeting decide to give you the flick! – harsh, but true.
Okay, let’s explore this part of the series of tips for dating then…
The Sense Of Sight
Tip No.1
Make sure you don’t have any ear wax, and clean those teeth and your tongue if you have to.
Tip No.2
Guys, shave! Your skin looks much fresher after you have shaved, and you want your date to think you have at least gone to the trouble of looking your best. If you have excessive nose hair, get rid of it.
Tip No.3
Girls, this applies to you too. No gorilla armpits or hairy legs! If you are into the more “natural look”, fine, but cover it up until you work out if this potential new partner is into that look as well.
You might have the philosophy of “Love me, love my hairy armpits”, but are you going to potentially ruin meeting what could be the love of your life for a bit of hair? You can always discuss this later if you both find you like each other.
Tip No.4
There is an old saying: “You can tell the confidence, pride and cleanliness of a person by the state of their shoes”. This is very true! You don’t have to have the latest designer shoes, but they need to be clean and not look like they are the only pair of shoes you have ever owned in your entire adult life!
Guys, polish them, or if they are a bit scuffed and worn, take them to the shoe repairer; it’s cheaper than buying a new pair.
Girls, same thing applies to you. If your heels are a little worn down and the shoes look tired, take them in for a sprucing up. You will feel fabulous when you put them on again just before going on your date.
Tip No.5
Guys, make sure you have a clean, ironed shirt or T-shirt and pants without old stains or moth-eaten holes and rips in them.
Tip No.6
If you have put on a bit of weight and your shirt is too tight and pulling at the buttons, beg, borrow or buy a new one. Nothing looks worse than belly bulge and hair poking through the spaces in between the buttons when you are sitting down.
The same thing applies to the girls. If your clothes are too tight, you are going to be fidgeting constantly and you will feel uncomfortable and self-conscious, and then it won’t matter how much you love that outfit—you will hate it by the end of your meeting with your date. So wear clothes that actually do fit you. You will potentially be nervous enough without adding to it by wearing clothes that don’t fit or are fashionable but killing you!
Tip No. 7
Girls, I know some of you feel great when you wear low-cut tops with cleavage showing. But if you want your date to see your face (the one you have gone to all the trouble making up), then I suggest you wear something that will make him want to look at your face and not be distracted by your cleavage.
Some men get the wrong signals and think, because you have dressed like this, you are looking to become more intimate. I’m not suggesting you dress like Old Mother Hubbard by any stretch of the imagination, but he can’t read your mind and has never met you before.
So this is something to really think about. There is plenty of time later if you continue to see each other to wear these types of clothes.
Tip No.8
Remember your mother always told you to walk with your back straight? She was right. A straight back is a sign of confidence, plus it makes you look slimmer. Male or female, this applies to both.
Tip No.9
Sit straight when you are at the table. You don’t want to be so slouched over that you look like your head is ready to land on the table for a quick nap; and if you are carrying a little bit of extra weight, your stomach won’t hang out as much.
Tip No.10
If you wear jewellery, less is much more attractive than displaying your entire collection and sounding like a percussionist every time you move your hands because all the bangles you are wearing are jangling together!
Dazzle them with your smile, not your adornments. This goes for you too, guys; some women don’t like men who wear bling.
If you have expensive jewellery, don’t wear it! Leave it at home. Remember, you don’t know this person—not yet—no matter how much you think you do, and you don’t want to set yourself up as a target to be ripped off or burgled.
Okay, your turn now…Your thoughts?
As I have stated before these are the basics for us to build on – some you will do automatically and some you may have forgotten – it’s just a little reminder at how important the first impression is and giving yourself a chance at being in the drivers seat to decide for yourself if you want to see this person again and not have them decide for you.
Okay, we are half way through this series of Tips For Dating – next time – let’s explore the Sense of Sound – think you know what’s coming – bet you don’t!.
Until then, stay safe and make good choices!
Smiles to you
Yvonne
Yvonne Rice is a former Dating Agency Director, International Speaker and expert in the research of all aspects of the Single Lifestyle. She is a huge supporter of online dating and has researched 5,500+ Online Singles and over 6,000 Online Dating Sites globally. As a result of this research, she is also the Author of two books dedicated to being single and dating online.
Yvonne is also a consultant to various Law Enforcement and Government Agencies about Online Safety and Internet Scams that are directed at the Singles Dating, Chat Room and Social Networking Industries. She is also the CEO of the Global Non-For-Profit Organization - The Dating Association,
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