Your 4 Senses: Tips for Dating Success Part 3 of 4

Part 3 of 4: Sense of Sound

Well, we are a third of the way through our series on tips for dating - Your 4 Senses.

And this sense – the sense of sound is one of the most important and the most neglected of all of the sense when it comes to dating – seriously it’s true.

One of the BIGGEST complaints I use to hear from my clients after their first date was….”It was great, until they started…..!”

So, let’s explore how to avoid the pitfalls on the Sense of Sound and give us an even greater chance of leaving our date with a good impression and wanting to see us again (and not busting to exit!).

Sense of Sound Killer #1.

Please don’t drink alcohol before or during your date – many a great date has been ruined by one person drinking too much (usually due to nerves) and turned into a blabbering or even worse blubbering mess. (We will cover this in detail in the future – with real life scenarios). If you do this, the likely chances of you seeing this date again? – Are virtually - zip, zero…nada!

Sense of Sound Killer #2.

Unless you are really clever at telling jokes and you really should be on the stage, don’t do it. There is nothing worse than telling a joke and getting a forced laugh from the person having to listen to it. You don’t want to become embarrassed because the joke fell flat.

Sense of Sound Killer #3.

Please don’t slurp your drink or speak with a mouth full of food. Tacky, tacky, tacky! You will be really embarrassed if you accidentally spit some of your food at your date because you have become excited about a topic you are discussing.

Sense of Sound Killer #4.

Conversations. I would suggest that you stick to the old saying, “The only time you can talk about sex, politics, religion and sport is to a taxi driver”. Remember, at this stage you don’t really know your date, and you don’t want to offend them or get into a heated discussion—or worse, bore them to the back teeth—because you have a strong opinion or passion for any one of these topics.

Sense of Sound Killer #5.

You may be really excited to tell your date all about you, but the art of listening and allowing someone to finish what they are telling you without interruption is a great quality to develop. After all, this is an integral part of any relationship. So if you feel yourself bursting to interrupt, bite your tongue (gently, of course).

Sense of Sound Killer #6.

Please, please don’t talk about previous relationships at this stage of getting to know each other. It can come across in all sorts of ways that you may not intend it to—bitter, emotionally unstable, needy, and the list goes on…!

Keep it light. Save all that stuff for way, way, way down the track – better still leave it where it belongs – in the past. You are in the present now and looking to the future – a fresh start.

Let this potential new person in your life see the possibilities in you – and not the fears, disappointments and unfulfilled expectations you hold of your past.

Your Thoughts?

Next time in tips for dating, we will explore The Sense of Touch, yes, I know you’ve all been waiting for that one!

Until then, stay safe and make good choices!

Smiles to you as always,

Yvonne

Yvonne Rice is a former Dating Agency Director, International Speaker and expert in the research of all aspects of the Single Lifestyle. She is a huge supporter of online dating and has researched 5,500+ Online Singles and over 6,000 Online Dating Sites globally. As a result of this research, she is also the Author of two books dedicated to being single and dating online.

Yvonne is also a consultant to various Law Enforcement and Government Agencies about Online Safety and Internet Scams that are directed at the Singles Dating, Chat Room and Social Networking Industries. She is also the CEO of the Global Non-For-Profit Organization - The Dating Association,

Your 4 Senses: Tips for Dating Success Part 2 of 4

Part 2 of 4: Sense of Sight

Well, in the last tips for dating article we took at really good look at the 1^st of your Senses – The Sense of Smell and just how important that can be to your date. If this is your first time here - you will find this on the right hand side under Categories - enjoy!

Today we are going to explore the Sense of Sight and as a comment suggested from one of my readers David puts so well,……

“Great Blog, very helpful. I’m looking forward to reading what you write about sight as it plays such an important part in a relationship - not just during the courtship but well into the partnership. Keep up the good work!”

Thank you David! – and you are right, it is important to keep up how you look after yourself well into your relationship and we will cover this in another series of tips for dating. But for now, we want to get you to that place of being in a relationship.

Now, please remember that in these tips for dating we are going back to the basics…building that foundation again.

You have nothing to loose by doing a refresher, because sometimes we forget – and it’s the little things that give you the chance of a second date – or make the person you are meeting decide to give you the flick! – harsh, but true.

Okay, let’s explore this part of the series of tips for dating then…

The Sense Of Sight

Tip No.1

Make sure you don’t have any ear wax, and clean those teeth and your tongue if you have to.

Tip No.2

Guys, shave! Your skin looks much fresher after you have shaved, and you want your date to think you have at least gone to the trouble of looking your best. If you have excessive nose hair, get rid of it.

Tip No.3

Girls, this applies to you too. No gorilla armpits or hairy legs! If you are into the more “natural look”, fine, but cover it up until you work out if this potential new partner is into that look as well.

You might have the philosophy of “Love me, love my hairy armpits”, but are you going to potentially ruin meeting what could be the love of your life for a bit of hair? You can always discuss this later if you both find you like each other.

Tip No.4

There is an old saying: “You can tell the confidence, pride and cleanliness of a person by the state of their shoes”. This is very true! You don’t have to have the latest designer shoes, but they need to be clean and not look like they are the only pair of shoes you have ever owned in your entire adult life!

Guys, polish them, or if they are a bit scuffed and worn, take them to the shoe repairer; it’s cheaper than buying a new pair.

Girls, same thing applies to you. If your heels are a little worn down and the shoes look tired, take them in for a sprucing up. You will feel fabulous when you put them on again just before going on your date.

Tip No.5

Guys, make sure you have a clean, ironed shirt or T-shirt and pants without old stains or moth-eaten holes and rips in them.

Tip No.6

If you have put on a bit of weight and your shirt is too tight and pulling at the buttons, beg, borrow or buy a new one. Nothing looks worse than belly bulge and hair poking through the spaces in between the buttons when you are sitting down.

The same thing applies to the girls. If your clothes are too tight, you are going to be fidgeting constantly and you will feel uncomfortable and self-conscious, and then it won’t matter how much you love that outfit—you will hate it by the end of your meeting with your date. So wear clothes that actually do fit you. You will potentially be nervous enough without adding to it by wearing clothes that don’t fit or are fashionable but killing you!

Tip No. 7

Girls, I know some of you feel great when you wear low-cut tops with cleavage showing. But if you want your date to see your face (the one you have gone to all the trouble making up), then I suggest you wear something that will make him want to look at your face and not be distracted by your cleavage.

Some men get the wrong signals and think, because you have dressed like this, you are looking to become more intimate. I’m not suggesting you dress like Old Mother Hubbard by any stretch of the imagination, but he can’t read your mind and has never met you before.

So this is something to really think about. There is plenty of time later if you continue to see each other to wear these types of clothes.

Tip No.8

Remember your mother always told you to walk with your back straight? She was right. A straight back is a sign of confidence, plus it makes you look slimmer. Male or female, this applies to both.

Tip No.9

Sit straight when you are at the table. You don’t want to be so slouched over that you look like your head is ready to land on the table for a quick nap; and if you are carrying a little bit of extra weight, your stomach won’t hang out as much.

Tip No.10

If you wear jewellery, less is much more attractive than displaying your entire collection and sounding like a percussionist every time you move your hands because all the bangles you are wearing are jangling together!

Dazzle them with your smile, not your adornments. This goes for you too, guys; some women don’t like men who wear bling.

If you have expensive jewellery, don’t wear it! Leave it at home. Remember, you don’t know this person—not yet—no matter how much you think you do, and you don’t want to set yourself up as a target to be ripped off or burgled.

Okay, your turn now…Your thoughts?

As I have stated before these are the basics for us to build on – some you will do automatically and some you may have forgotten – it’s just a little reminder at how important the first impression is and giving yourself a chance at being in the drivers seat to decide for yourself if you want to see this person again and not have them decide for you.

Okay, we are half way through this series of Tips For Dating – next time – let’s explore the Sense of Sound – think you know what’s coming – bet you don’t!.

Until then, stay safe and make good choices!

Smiles to you

Yvonne

Yvonne Rice is a former Dating Agency Director, International Speaker and expert in the research of all aspects of the Single Lifestyle. She is a huge supporter of online dating and has researched 5,500+ Online Singles and over 6,000 Online Dating Sites globally. As a result of this research, she is also the Author of two books dedicated to being single and dating online.

Yvonne is also a consultant to various Law Enforcement and Government Agencies about Online Safety and Internet Scams that are directed at the Singles Dating, Chat Room and Social Networking Industries. She is also the CEO of the Global Non-For-Profit Organization - The Dating Association,

Your 4 Senses: Tips for Dating Success Part 1 of 4

Part 1 of 4: Sense of Smell

Okay, let’s go back to a few pre-dating basic tips for dating before we venture out on that first date. As a former Dating Agency Director, you have no idea how many times I heard my clients complain about a date’s smell, language, conversation and dress. And we are not talking about the less financially fortunate here either –

So, let’s get back to the basic tips for dating. Let’s you and I together, make sure you have a solid foundation through this short series of tips for dating so that you are better equipped to find “the one” for you.

In this 4 part series we will cover all the basics – let’s call it a tips for dating refresher – and then we will get into the more interesting aspects of dating in all of its wonderful forms!

In this short series we will cover:

1. The Sense of Smell
2. The Sense of Sight
3. The Sense of Sound
4. The Sense of Touch

Why are we only doing tips for dating on 4 of the 5 senses?. Well, the 5^th Sense is the sense of Taste – and unless you intend doing a Hannibal Lector on your date and eating them – we don’t need to cover this one.

So, stick around and feel free to contribute – a conversation is about to being and you are an integral part of it – Are you ready? Fantastic! Let’s begin!.

Getting yourself ready to meet

Okay. Let’s get dressed for the date! I love this part: it’s both exhilarating and nerve-racking at the same time! But it’s okay; you will be fine.

This is where both you and your date’s sensory perception is at it’s peek and extremely fine tunned so, let’s do our bit to make sure we are giving the right sensory information to help them make up their mind about you and not put them off!

Now, about some of the things I ask you to do, you may say, “Of course I would do that anyway; how stupid of you to even say it”. But let me tell you: when you are getting ready for your first date and you are nervous, sometimes you forget—so bear with me.

It’s just a check list to help you. Little things can make a huge difference.

You only get one chance at a first impression and, believe me, that is what counts—so let’s make it a positive, lasting first impression.

The sense of smell

Tip No. 1

The smell of freshly washed hair . . . mmmm . . . is great! It has that lovely, clean, fresh smell. So wash your hair the morning of your impending date. Even if you put heaps of hair product in it, the products are also perfumed but designed to be not too overpowering.

Tip No. 2

Make sure you wear deodorant even if you live in Antarctica! Nerves make your body perspire (sweat). Guys, if you wear those manly sports deodorants, get someone (and not another guy) to tell you if it is too intense. Some of them really stink! Well, it’s true!

Go easy on the perfume or the aftershave. You might think it is a scent made by the gods, but quite frankly you could be unbearable and end up giving your date the headache from hell—when all they can think about is where to get the nearest headache tablet and not think about you.

So a little touch is much more appealing than smelling like you work in the testing section of a perfume factory, no matter how expensive the scent you are wearing.

Check that your deodorant doesn’t leave white stains on your shirt or your dress, especially if what you are wearing is black or a dark colour. Guys, this applies to you too . . . it’s not a good look.

Tip No. 3

Make sure the clothes you pick to wear on your date don’t smell like they have been stuffed in a drawer for the last millennium—and no, absolutely no, clothes that smell like mothballs . . . yuck!

Work out what you are going to wear at least the day before your date, and hang your clothes in the fresh air or in your bathroom to get rid of any “storing” odours if you haven’t worn them for a while. Better still, wash or dry-clean them. That freshly washed smell is great!

Tip No. 4

Have some fresh breath mints on you, and have a couple a few minutes before you meet your date. Fresh breath makes you feel good, and there is nothing worse than talking to someone who has bad breath. It is so distracting. So no garlic the night before, either!

Tip No. 5

If you are a smoker—and I know you will be feeling nervous—make sure you have your last cigarette before you have a shower and get dressed. You don’t want to smell like an ashtray when you meet your date. Smoke odour coming from clothes, skin and hair can be offensive to someone who is not a smoker or is a reformed smoker.

Your thoughts?

Next time in tips for dating we will cover the Sense of Sight (now that should be interesting!) Until then, stay safe and make good choices!

Smiles to you always,

Yvonne Rice

Yvonne Rice is a former Dating Agency Director, International Speaker and expert in the research of all aspects of the Single Lifestyle. She is a huge supporter of online dating and has researched 5,500+ Online Singles and over 6,000 Online Dating Sites globally. As a result of this research, she is also the Author of two books dedicated to being single and dating online.

Yvonne is also a consultant to various Law Enforcement and Government Agencies about Online Safety and Internet Scams that are directed at the Singles Dating, Chat Room and Social Networking Industries. She is also the CEO of the Global Non-For-Profit Organization - The Dating Association,