I know it’s been a while since I posted - for those who follow Tips For Dating - I apologize, it’s been a very busy few months collaborating with Global Law Enforcement and Government Agencies on Romance Scams and how we can prevent them.
With this aside (fill you in on this later) let’s get into - Tips For Dating: Escaping A Bad Date.
Due to no fault other than being human, we have all experienced a Bad Date.
Those times in our lives when, we really should have listened to those little warning bells that tinkled in our ears, (before they turned into deafening clangor’s) the little bells that tell us: maybe this is not the person for me.
However, we decide to give them the benefit of the doubt – after all, you tell yourself “Maybe I’m just being too picky, besides, it’s only one date – how bad can one date be?”…… Seems reasonable enough doesn’t it?
But what happens when this “It’s only one Date” turns into a - I would give anything right now if I could wined back the clock, change history and totally erase the parts before I uttered the words:
“Yes, I would love to go out on a date with you”? Enter, “The Bad Date” scenario.
One of the things we really need to keep in mind is that most people don’t take rejection too well – no surprises there. So, getting out of a Bad Date will need some thought so that you don’t spark anything nasty in the person you are rejecting.
Wouldn’t it be nice if we could all be right up front and it was socially acceptable to say to someone – “Sorry, you’re not for me – and I wish you well in your search” no-one got hurt by this and everyone moved on?.
How good would that be! But, this isn’t the case, so diplomacy is the name of the game here. You also don’t want to put yourself in a situation of more discomfort or even danger by being confrontational, do you? Okay, that being said let’s look at a few ways we can extricate ourselves from this Bad Date nightmare!
The following tips for dating are only designed for a really ”Bad Date” Diplomatic honesty in my books – is always the best policy – remember, everyone has feelings.
Tip #1. Be Honest.
If your date is boring you to your back teeth, just be polite and end it with dignity. Most people will get the “Thanks, but, no thanks” message behind a polite “I’m happy to have met you, yet I don’t see a future together for us.”
Tip #2. Spill It
“Accidentally” spill an entire cup of coffee in your lap so you have to leave to get out of your wet clothes. A word of warning here: make sure the coffee isn’t boiling hot. You don’t want Bad Date coming to the emergency room with you for moral support because you’ve sustained 3rd degree burns on you private parts.
Tip #3. Past Love or Pet
Normally in my books this is a No, No, to talk about “the last love in your life” – but talking non-stop about your last love or how much you love your pet (and not coming up for air) will pretty much guaranty your Bad Date will end it for you. No-one likes to think they are going to always come second - especially if it’s to a pet.
Tip #4. Lifeline
Have a friend text you on your cell phone 30 minutes into your date. Arrange that you will call or text back within 15 minutes of their call. This will give you time to politely excuse yourself to go to the bathroom call them back and then come back to your Bad Date with an excuse – a family emergency is always a good one.
Tip #5. On Call
If you work or volunteer in a shift work or services type of environment this is perfect – you can always say you got a call from work just before meeting them – you have been asked to “fill-in” or are needed for an important meeting at short notice – but you had time to squeeze in one quick coffee with your date.
Tip #6. Children
If you have them – they make the best excuses to leave any situation by cutting it short -anything from they are “going through a trauma” to “being ill” to whatever you wish to use. I wouldn’t use this excuse though if you don’t have them.
Tip #7. Opposites
Ask them what peeves them off the most in a relationship – listen very carefully: when they tell you, look sheepish and say “Oh, dear, I do that and my last partner hated it too!…. that’s why we never got along”. It will be easy to wrap-up a Bad Date quickly after that.
Tip #8. Form Another Interest
If you are at a bar offer to go and buy the next round of drinks. Start talking to another person at the bar – for ages. When you get back to the table look at you watch and say “Gee, is it that time already?”. I need to go – have an early start in the morning.
Tip #9. Vanish
If you are in a busy bar or nightclub, excuse yourself so that you can to go to the bathroom: then find your way out the door.
Your Thoughts?
Next time in tips for dating, we will explore “Free Dating Sites vs. Paid Dating Sites” – there is more to this than you think!
Until then, stay safe and make good choices!
Smiles to you as always,
Yvonne Rice
Yvonne Rice is a former Dating Agency Director and expert in the research of all aspects of the Single Lifestyle. She is a huge supporter of online dating and has researched 5,500+ Online Singles and over 6,000 Online Dating Sites globally. As a result of this research, she is also the Author of two books dedicated to being single and dating online.
Yvonne is also a consultant to various Global Law Enforcement, Governments and Government Agencies about Online Safety and Internet Scams that are directed at the Singles Dating, Chat Room and Social Networking Industries. She is also the CEO of the Global Non-For-Profit Organization - The Dating Association
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